Not one single card.
I mean, what should I have expected?
Out of all the people who knew I was pregnant (IRL) I didn't get one single condolence or sympathy card.
I guess after 10 people get bored trying to console anyone.
6 years ago
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There are too many babies lost for me to name. This place is for them.
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Maggie stillborn at 21 weeks
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Sean at 9 weeks
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7 comments:
im glad you are leaning on us, i know we aren't IRL friends, and that nobody can really make you feel any better, but we are here, right by your side and holding your hand. and we will continue to be right next to you for as long as you need us.
xoxo
lis
I'm sorry. To me, it seems like the more I miscarry (gosh that sounds even horrible to type) the more people are quiet about it. I get a vibe like they're wondering why we're still trying? I could be wrong and overly sensitive, but that's just how it seems.
Either way, it just plain is awful.
I've had a few people tell me we should just adopt. I think that is incredibly rude and also makes a lot of assumptions about our finances. I can't believe people are stupid enough to think adoption is cheap or free or that we're rolling in money. I would suggest to my husband that we ask his parents for help with that but I don't want to be in debt to them if I can help it. I would rather try a surrogate first. I think it's my uterus, plain and simple but there's no way to know for sure.
People who haven't gone through it don't understand. It's so frustrating.
I know it is so very difficult when you are in pain and people on the other side seem completely oblivious to it. A simple gesture, such as touching your hand and saying "I'm so sorry" means more than people realize.
People often feel awkward or don't know what to say. Sometimes I get angry at this attitude because it makes it about them and not about you or what you are going through. Get over it and reach out, I feel like saying to these people.
Shannon, I am so sad for your loss. It doesn't matter if this is your first loss or your tenth. You feel the pain just the same and deserve to be comforted and consoled right now.
As far as people suggesting you should adopt...please forgive their ignorance. I can only assume that they want to offer a solution to your pain and think that would wrap things up in a tidy little box. We all know it's not that simple. I wish people would at least research the kind words to say to another during these painful moments.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Please know that you have so many out here that think about you daily and if we could shoulder some of the pain you carry, to make it lighter for you, we would.
Sending you love...
I am so sorry for your incredible loss. My heart breaks for you. I know we do not know each other but there is something about the pain of losing a precious little life that bonds all of us together. I have experienced four losses. I don't know what you think about God but I know you must feel so abandoned and have a lot of anger. I want you to know that you aren't alone. I don't understand why these things happen. I don't understand why it is so unfair. It really is. You shouldn't have to go through so much pain. I do know that God loves you. I know you may not want to hear that or know that and I understand. I just felt like I needed to say that. Please know that I will be praying for you.
- Courtney Cloud
Alabama
Shannon, I am so sorry you have lost another baby and that you are having to go through this. Please know you are in my thoughts.
If you want help on getting a support group going, I'd be happy to provide my perspective.
Cynthia
I'm so sorry for your loss. I came upon your blog when I was searching for misscarriage blogs. I am going through my first. Technically they are calling it a blighted ovum, but the technical name doesn't make my heart hurt any less. I was also given misoprostol to help my body pass the tissue. Life is hell.
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