Friday, April 10, 2009

HSG Results

I had the HSG today, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. I'm really lucky to have such a nice doctor, I wish I could say as much about his office staff. I also found out today that he got the award this year for being an awesome doctor and when I got to the hospital to go to my appointment I saw a big poster with his picture on it. Very cool.

So the HSG showed that I have all my parts and according to my doctor, after some thought, it wasn't to see if my tubes were blocked but maybe to see if I had a septum or other weird thing going on in my uterus. It didn't look bad but because it's retroverted it was hard to be sure. But seeing as I was pregnant with Isabella for 19 weeks it is probably ok. So he said to try really hard this month and hopefully I'll have some good news soon. ;)

Last week after I talked to my doctor about how to proceed and scheduling the HSG he told me that they now hand out a small packet for women when they have miscarriages, and he said I should make up a flier of some sort to put in there if I want to get the word out about my support group I'm trying to get going. So yesterday I stopped by and dropped of the fliers and asked to have a packet so I could see what they had in there. I thought it was pretty lame. There was a booklet in there about miscarriage and grief stages, but it was pathetic. There were also typos in the booklet which makes it seem even more lame that they couldn't proof read it well enough before printing it (not that it's my OBGYN's office's fault, they didn't publish it). I suppose it's better than not getting anything at all, which is what I got. But I think the thing that would be most helpful is if the doctors, nurses, techs would be more sympathetic. I never had a problem with my OBGYN (he's the best), but other people in the office (specifically that nurse who is horrible on the phone) and the ultrasound tech in radiology at the hospital were plain horrible. Not one sympathetic word from the lot of them. I've heard that the medical community doesn't like to say "I'm sorry" because it might give patients somewhere to place blame in the case of a botched procedure, but when it comes to miscarriage or stillbirth it can make a huge difference. And I don't see how I could blame anyone for what happened to Isabella or Sean.

So it was basically a form letter where they hand write in your name at the top, it lists types of miscarriages, gives some weak sympathy and definition of miscarriage terms. There's a small pamphlet for a visiting nurse association, but no where in that does it say anything about pregnancy loss. And then the crappy booklet. The booklet lists some books or other resources at the end and I wish it listed "Empty Cradle, Broken Heart" because that's one of the better books to read. 3 sad, crappy things. I feel like I need to find better stuff for them to put in there.

Any suggestions?

6 comments:

Shanti Mama said...

Nice packets they give out. But, they are acknowledging that something should go out... there is hope. Have you seen A Small Victory and what their packages look like? Maybe that could give you ideas? www.asmallvictory.org

Heather said...

Perhaps a list of web resources? It took me weeks to find good ones, but they quickly became my lifeline.

wifey said...

I think listing some web resources would be fabulous. I also really like the book Coming to Term by Jon Cohen. It's fairly scientific in it's approach, but also really hopeful. I've just started rereading it.

I'm glad that your HSG went well. Sending good thoughts your way!

BTW, I think you're fantastic for reaching out to others suffering a loss. You've definitely inspired me to figure out how I can be a resource for others.

Alana said...

Yea! Glad the HSG went well.

I agree with the others---online resources would be super. It took me a few weeks after my miscarriage to stumble upon Stirrup Queen and her wonderful blogroll list. Due to her list, I finally felt a sense of "community," support, and acceptance, that I don't think I would have had otherwise.

Kudos to you for continuing your support group!

Michelle said...

Definitely a list of web resources like Heather said. If I would have known all this was out hear it would have helped me a long time ago.

Also maybe some places that they could go to pamper and take care of themselves like spas or something in the area. When you are going through miscarriage you really need to take care of yourself and try to do something nice.

Shannon said...

Thanks for all the suggestions, I need to do some research and gather some things up and then I'll bring it over to my OBGYN's office. I'll keep you posted!